Introverts are boring people

5 questions that, as an introverted person, I no longer want to answer

Some days I am tired of having to assert myself in a world in which the only thing that seems to be important is to shout "Here I am!" As an introvert, I avoid the limelight whenever I can and often enough feel different from others who don't seem to have any problems with any of this. I also try my best not to show my introversion immediately, because in a world like this you can't really get anywhere with it. Or is initially considered boring and arrogant because the famous first impression went wrong again.
But when I am confronted with the typical questions that only an extroverted person can ask, despite all the effort to hide my introversion, I would like to scream. Sometimes I am tempted to carry these questions with me along with my answers in printed form, as a kind of instructions for use for introverted people, and it would then read like this:

  • Do you find it normal to socialize so little? Yes. Being with other people exhausts me and exhausts me. Because while others charge their batteries when they are with other people, mine drains. And to recharge my batteries, I have to spend a lot of time with myself and have my peace of mind. I draw strength from the silence.
  • Why are you online so often instead of meeting "real people"? Because social networks are a wonderful place for introverts like me. I can get in touch if I want to, but I can also simply withdraw without offending anyone. I also meet a lot of like-minded people online because they can more easily come out of themselves in the anonymity of the Internet - just like me.
  • Why are you so quiet? I prefer to talk when I really have something to say, otherwise I can be very silent. I don't have to talk for the sake of talking.
  • Why do you say so little about yourself? Because I don't like to talk about myself - especially not if I don't know people very well.
  • Don't you get bored trying so little new? No. I don't feel the need to constantly experience or discover new things. My stimulus threshold is so low anyway that many everyday situations are exciting enough for me, so I don't need a special kick in my free time.


I am an intro - and I stand by it

I understand that the behavior of introverted people sometimes puzzles extroverted contemporaries because there is a lot that they cannot understand. However, the following is noteworthy:

"In terms of structure, 30 to 50 percent of people in any population are introverted - but the culture determines how clearly this comes to light," says Sylvia Löhken - self-confessed introvert and author of non-fiction and specialist books on the subject. [1]

Are there so many of us after all? In reality it feels very different to me, which is perhaps also due to the fact that many intros try to somehow adapt to their environment. So do I. I force myself to come out more than I really want to. Or accept invitations because I don't want to disappoint anyone and don't always want to marginalize myself, even though I know beforehand that I would rather stay at home. But what's the point?

The fact that there are introverts and extroverts is not new. C.G. Jung spoke of it as early as 1921. And yet it only now seems to be slowly becoming acceptable to be open to one's introversion. Perhaps the first step into a world that shows us introverts more understanding would be to give yourself more often the way you are. In the hope that other introverts will follow suit and one day our behavior will become a given. No better or worse than extroverted behavior - just different. And so that one day intros will no longer be given the label “boring” reflexively because of our initial reluctance. Because we are a lot, but definitely not boring.


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