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Learn from dancing for love

Learn from dancing for love

Professional dancers seem to understand each other without words. The magic behind this harmony is in clear agreements. You can learn a lot from the dance rules for your own love life.
By Deborah Weinbuch
As if by themselves, they float across the dance floor, perfectly in time. Almost telepathically, they seem to know what the other wants. It is almost as if for this moment they were one being, one soul in two bodies, to which the music gives weightlessness. We admire good dance couples, sometimes we envy them too. We can also fulfill our longing for this harmony. Because people who have been dancing for years have learned one thing above all: to respond to one another perfectly, to stick to themselves and to always respect one another. The couple dance is a reflection of romantic relationships. In the world of dance, we challenge potential partners, occasionally collect a basket or even hand it out. Every now and then we step on the feet of our counterpart or get something off ourselves. But if you gradually tune into each other and find the rhythm, you can float together as if on clouds.
Dancing together requires a very conscious perception and an intuitive feeling of the other. At the same time, every couple dance is a constant communication - yes, a negotiation between what the partners would most like. Because beyond fixed figures and basic steps, there is a lot of creative freedom. Since dancing is a highly voluntary thing that can come to an abrupt end at any time, this negotiation requires a sure instinct and a positive basic attitude, which can only be good for partnerships in normal life.
For example, if a dance partner tries to enforce all of his ideas at the other's expense, this disturbs the harmony. Good leadership always takes the other into account. So we pay attention to the partner instead of pressuring him. We work together and yet we each have to stay in the middle to keep the balance. The following principles of couple dance help to develop together:
When, where and with whom do I want to go on the dance floor?
The basis for a beautiful dance is that both have an equal desire for it. Mutual affection is the basis of opening up to one another. And also looking over it, if something does not work out as planned. Without sufficient affection, you will always find a fly in the ointment.
So if both are impressed by each other, it is important to carefully sound out: What can we implement together? This is how we avoid castles in the air and the associated disappointments. Experienced dancers therefore begin with careful rocking steps, which they expand with increasingly complex figures. This is how you find out elegantly and carefully where the other person is. So let's take enough time off the dance floor for a warm-up to see what is really possible with each other and what feels good.
Waltz or a fast tango?
The type of dance must be clearly defined. Only when both partners recognize the rhythm and get involved can harmony arise. If one of them rushes fiery while the other would like to circling leisurely across the dance floor, clashes will inevitably occur. So it's best to talk about which song we want to dance to right now. That can change at any time.
3. Bump into it and step on your feet:
Tolerance & Forgiveness
Anyone who has ever observed how some couples deal with accusations during dance classes knows: A good dance is above all a lived tolerance and mutual accommodation. In order for it to work despite mistakes, it doesn't help to turn around in exasperation and sigh: “You never really listen to me”. Rather, we have to clearly state what has just disrupted the flow: “Right now, when you turned me so far to the right, I couldn't get back into the middle fast enough. Can you bring me closer to you next time? ”So our partner knows exactly where we think the problem is and how the small disturbance can be easily remedied - without the whole dance being called into question. Then the chances are good that he'll try it out too. Patience is the basis for developing further as a dance couple. Only a beginner threatens: “If this twist doesn't work, then I won't dance with you any more.” Such a hard position only shows a lack of flexibility and lack of creativity. Because there are always ways to adapt characters in such a way that it is feasible for both.
Train together
Another typical beginner's mistake: If the partner does not perform a figure as expected, beginners say: "But you should have reacted one way or another when I gave this sign." Wrong: Because if the partner didn't understand something, that's always the case the unclear leadership. So you have to show more clearly what you want.
Also possible: Perhaps the partner understood what was wanted, but did not want to implement it. When dancing, for example, it can happen that the lady locks herself against a deep dip in the middle of a full dance floor. She may be concerned about the risk of a head injury because there is too much going on. Your refusal is of course permissible and appropriate. But professional dancers explain something like this immediately and give the reasons for their behavior. In this way, they prevent the dance partner from delving into their own interpretations ("She is simply not flexible enough.") And that misunderstandings arise that eat up the appreciation and significantly limit the horizon for future dances together.
Get involved and grow together
More and more advanced dancers improvise. Her secret: the more playful and experimental the dance, the more trust we need in one another. We can outgrow ourselves if we feel held at the same time as free space. A tango dancer who draws beautiful figures with complex footwork needs a partner with a strong arm who holds, supports and perceives them precisely. A partner who knows when to shine and when to return to security. Good dancers also keep the openness to allow themselves to be corrected. An offended reaction to a constructive tip has no place on the dance floor or in relationships. Because if we really want to develop further, we need a certain amount of humility. The prerequisite for this is a good self-esteem. Because when we are at peace with ourselves, we don't feel completely attacked in person just because someone gives us advice. Anyone who translates constructive criticism in his head as “You're always doing everything wrong” has a problem that probably stems from previous injuries. Our current partner did not contribute anything to this at first. Admitting this takes courage - and interestingly, this word is also used in the term “humility”. Humility is the basis of all great art. It means realizing that we are all far from perfect. Always.
7. Ease and erection:
For the success of the figures
Those who are happy get more out of their negotiations. This applies to the dance floor as well as to other life situations. Anger just lowers the willingness to cooperate and causes us to step on each other's feet. Ultimately, every single dance - even with the same partner - will always be a new negotiation. Every time we can see each other with new eyes. Characterized by an open heart and sincere communication, this can become the most beautiful thing in the world.
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