What makes a person have a bad attitude

5 main characteristics of negative people

Last update: 15th March, 2018

It would be unfair to say that a person is fundamentally negative. All people have values, and we cannot simply label anyone as negative. Therefore, when we speak of "negative people" we are talking about their focus, about their negative attitudes, not about the people themselves.

It is also important to make it clear that there is nothing completely permanent about a person, especially on an emotional level. thats why no one is 100% negative or 100% positive. Both aspects are in each of us. What happens is that each person decides whether to adopt a more positive or negative attitude towards life.

"Each of us is our own devil, and we are making this world a hell."

Oscar Wilde

Today we're trying to introduce a few of the main characteristics that make someone more likely to be negative. The primary victim of this attitude is actually the very person who behaves in this way. So it's worth taking a second to read see if we ourselves fall into that category. We could achieve a lot if we change our attitudesif so.

So let's look at the five main characteristics of negative people.

1. Trying to face the impossible

Life is full of impossibilities, but some people are unwilling to accept it. That frustration is part of life: we don't always get what we want.

Perhaps we would have preferred to be born into a millionaire family or to have had understanding parents. But there is nothing we can do about it. And when we long for things that didn't happen the way we wanted them to, we experience bitterness and pain.

The same thing happens when we set impossible goals for ourselves. For example, when we try to look young when we are not. Or when we try to make someone do what we think is right, but they don't. Impossible goals only bring frustration, dissatisfaction and suffering. These are the emotions that feed negative attitudes.

2. Giving up when we hit a roadblock

As we've seen, there is no point in setting impossible goals. There is also no point in giving up if we want to achieve something and obstacles appear before us. Remember that anything worth achieving takes effort. Success usually requires perseverance.

Often times in life we ​​are tempted to give up. But giving up is not an option when we have goals in mind that we can achieve even when it is difficult. Psychologist Hillary White noted that “It feels like defeat when you give up. Regardless of whether you are successful with it, it increases your self-confidence when you face difficulties. "

3. Take things too seriously

When we don't have enough self-love and maturity, our ego is very sensitive. We are then unable to tolerate embarrassment and are afraid of embarrassing ourselves. Likewise, we do not take criticism well, even if it is accurate and could really help us.

Taking things too seriously increases negativity, both towards others and towards ourselves. It takes humility not to take small faux pas so seriously. Embarrassing yourself or making a mistake is only a problem if we give the situation more importance than it deserves.

4. Complaining is a way of life for negative people

We all complain sometimes. A problem arises when complaint becomes a way of life. Through this our vision is clouded, which is why we see everything negatively. There's no other possibility. We focus on our problems and the things we don't have and can't do. Then we take on a completely negative attitude towards life.

Indeed is this a strategy that negative people use to justify their lack of development.

Lawsuits become blank checks to prevent growth and to prevent both commitment and self-improvement.

5. Compare yourself to and be hostile to others

Always comparing yourself to others is a very negative thing. It indicates a lack of personal responsibility and identity. When comparing, a person judges what they are doing by looking at what others are doing. The result is an unfair and frustrating experience that can only lead to constant confrontation and dissatisfaction.

Worst of all, a comparative person will usually demean others in order to cheer themselves up. That is, she is happy when unpleasant things happen to others. Because that puts them in a state of need or error, while they themselves rise to a higher position.

As you can see, a negative attitude only leads to a never-ending dissatisfaction. It prevents progress and inhibits positive relationships. It's a vicious circle that leads nowhere.

If you see these negative attitudes in yourself, then don't wait. Start changing them now. Having a negative attitude is not good for you. Sooner or later you will lose yourself.

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