We are all victims of life experiences

WARBURG "We all experienced violence"

Ms. Limberg, are there people who become victims more quickly?
BRITTA LIMBERG: People become victims when there are people around them who believe they can use violence to achieve their goals. Whether and how a person will defend themselves against violence is influenced by their personality and their experiences with border violations. And we have all had experiences of violence in our lives. Violence doesn't always have something to do with beating, it is also about breaking boundaries. Depending on the different experiences people have, their reactions are also very different.

Those who have been victims are often intimidated and frightened. How can the soul be brought back into balance?
LIMBERG: The soul can cope with everyday violence if it can be talked about, there is consolation and there are enough good relationships around me. Traumatic violence, such as sexual violence, abuse, physical abuse or even pedagogy with beatings, damages the soul. But even here it depends on the individual personality whether someone suffers a trauma that has to be treated. People are different. In any case, it helps to know that I can become effective myself, that I can do something. The girls also learn that in the role play in the workshop: to say no. And they take that with them into their everyday lives.

They offer courses on violence prevention. What's your approach?
LIMBERG: Wendo is an educational concept against violence against girls and women. It was developed by women for women in the 1970s. The technique is easy to learn and can be used by every girl and woman, regardless of their physical constitution. This also applies to women with disabilities. We do perception exercises, coordination training, movement and fighting games. Of course, self-defense techniques are also taught. But the message that every girl and woman can make a decision for themselves is also important.

How can you protect yourself from violence without having attended a course?
LIMBERG: The best prevention is when parents respect and perceive their children's limits. It starts, for example, with unsolicited and undesired cuddling of the child. Nice, neat and polite - that's how children should often be. But it is important that children learn that their boundaries are respected. This also includes, for example, the locked bathroom door, or that dad accepts the "no" when giving kisses. I know this is difficult for parents. But only through the knowledge of their own, respected limits, children can later not only set their limits as adults in their lives, but also enforce them.