Why am I not good at dealing with relationships

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Everyone thinks about separation from time to time. Even people who actually live in a happy relationship, think about the separation from their partner after an argument. But that doesn't usually mean that they actually want to end the relationship.

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However, if the thought of separation becomes a constant companion, it should be taken seriously. Too bad to stay, too good to go - men and women who feel this way are, according to the magazine Psychologie Heute-compact, in a relationship ambivalence. However, certain characteristics make it clear whether the relationship is at risk. If several people come together, a breakup may be the right decision.

Little willingness to work

If one of the two partners often speaks of separation or if he makes decisions for the future (e.g. changing jobs) without the other, his willingness to work is low. On the other hand, the partner is ready to work if he keeps to an agreement, for example if he calls when it is later at work.

Disloyalty

A relationship can survive a single affair. But constant infidelity removes the basis of the relationship. Even those who refuse to meet the needs of their partner or talk badly about their partner in front of third parties are behaving disloyally and thus destroying trust.

Uncertainty and narrowing

When you don't feel free with your partner but rather restricted. If you are afraid to show your anger or fears in front of the other, or if your partner might sulk, get angry or even damage things out of concern, the partnership is not a safe place.

disrespect

There are many ways to be disrespectful to your partner. For example, if you think you have to educate your partner first. Others show that they think the other person is stupid or they ridicule his taste. All kinds of disrespect make the person feel humiliated - a sign that the relationship is not okay.

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Lost respect

When someone is constantly drunk, or regularly freaking out and losing control, it is difficult to keep paying attention to them in the long term. However, without mutual respect, a relationship has little future.

Different life plans, lack of common ground, physical distancing

Serious differences in life planning

If one is a domestic type and the other wants to do something every evening, this leads to conflict if the couple fails to find compromises. It becomes more difficult if, for example, one of the two wants children and the partner doesn't. If important life goals cannot be agreed, a separation may be the happier decision in the long term.

Missing common ground

If there is nothing left for the couple to do together, unless both are invited together or have another mandatory appointment, the relationship is not going well.

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Lack of humor

One criterion for a good and long relationship is that both partners can laugh at each other. Humor makes a lot of problems easier. On the other hand, if the humor has disappeared from the relationship, this is another warning sign.

Physical distancing

If partners no longer want to touch each other or if one of the two even feels reluctance as soon as the other gets close, this is a sign of a broken relationship. (dmn)

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