Make women orgasm during intercourse

The woman's orgasm

The term "orgasm" is derived from the Greek word "orgon" and means "craving something hard". What is meant is the climax of the sexual experience. It is a very intense feeling in which tension and excitement abruptly dissolve and turn into relaxation, well-being and satisfaction. In women, the orgasm phase can last longer than in men, sometimes up to a minute. Women are also able to have multiple orgasms in quick succession.

The way the orgasm is felt can vary from time to time and depends on various factors. The ability to orgasm increases in women with increasing age. They learn how to orgasm as they develop sexually. This ability is not lost in old age. Orgasmic disorders mainly affect younger women, and there are many possible causes for this.

What happens in the body

Sexual arousal and orgasm take place in different phases. One speaks of the "sexual reaction cycle". When a woman is aroused, the mucous membrane of the vagina becomes moist within less than half a minute, the labia are supplied with more blood, and the body temperature rises slightly. Breathing rate, pulse and blood pressure also increase. During the so-called plateau phase, the labia continue to swell, the vaginal entrance narrows, and the clitoris retracts under the foreskin.

At the peak of sexual arousal, the muscles of the vagina, uterus, and anus contract rhythmically. Depending on the strength of the orgasm, the muscles contract between three and twelve times.

60 seconds of exhilaration

Women often describe this rapid alternation of tension and relaxation as waves that go through the whole body. The female climax can last up to a minute. After the orgasm, the muscles relax and the initial state is reached after a few minutes.

After a "refractory period", which can also be very short, a woman is ready to have an orgasm again. Some women are ready to start again after a very short time, then one speaks of "multiple orgasms".

What is happening in the brain

Sexual arousal is also reflected in the neurotransmitter situation in the brain. Neurotransmitters are messenger substances that are responsible for transmitting signals between nerves and have a variety of tasks. When a woman experiences sexual arousal, the concentration of stimulating messenger substances such as phenetylamine and dopamine increases.

When orgasm occurs, the brain chemistry changes abruptly: the stimulating neurotransmitters give way to calming messenger substances, the brain is flooded with serotonin, vasproessin and oxytocin, for example. These messenger substances are associated with reassurance, happiness and the joy of bonding. Oxytocin, often simply referred to as the “cuddle hormone”, also plays a major role in the bond between mother and child in the first months of life.

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Are there different orgasms?

Much has been said and written about the female orgasm throughout history. Especially by men. Most of these explanatory models were shaped by social and societal ideas and less by scientific facts. Freud's psychoanalysis distinguishes between the clitoral orgasm, which was considered “immature”, and the “mature” vaginal orgasm.

However, medical physiological research has come to the conclusion that - from a medical point of view - there is only one female orgasm. Even with a vaginal orgasm, it is ultimately the clitoris that is stimulated. There are women who are more likely to need direct stimulation and others who are satisfied with indirect clitoral stimulation. No matter where and how the stimulation takes place - the measurable result is the same.

There are just as many myths and theses on the subject of "G-spot". This is a sensitive region along the urethra that is a few centimeters from the entrance to the vagina inside the vagina. The term point is particularly misleading.

Rather, the clitoris, urethra and vagina form a functional unit. Sexual arousal and orgasm arise from the interaction of these structures and nerve endings. Some women can precisely localize this sensitive zone, others cannot find their "G-spot" - but this does not mean that the ability to orgasm is different.

Subjectively different orgasms

In any case, women subjectively report different forms of orgasm. Whether by stimulating the clitoris, vaginal penetration, stimulating the anus or the nipples - an orgasm is generally possible in different ways. Some women even manage to trigger an orgasm through their imagination, some women also experience sexual climaxes while sleeping. What brings a woman to orgasm varies greatly from person to person.

Freud's view of the various qualities of orgasm has now been refuted. There is no reason to believe that an orgasm induced by vaginal penetration is better, "mature," or more desirable.

Which factors influence the orgasm?

Whether a climax is reached or how it is felt can depend on a wide variety of circumstances and conditions. The most important influencing factors include:

  • excitement

  • partner

  • Duration of previous abstinence

  • Length of sexual togetherness

  • stress

  • State of health, fatigue

  • Alcohol, medication, drugs

Should man and woman climax at the same time?

The thought that just having an orgasm together is "valuable" and worth striving for still haunts many minds. The fact is: Such an "edition" can have an adverse effect on the pleasurable experience. Rather, it is more the normal case that the climax is not always reached at the same time. Men and women often have different rhythms in this regard - and that certainly has nothing to do with a lack of feelings for one another.

It is important not to look for a norm that one has to comply with, but rather a common way to have fulfilled sex.

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Authors:
Mag. (FH) Axel Beer
Editorial editing:
Dr. med. Kerstin Lehermayr

Updated on:
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http://www.sexarchive.info/ATLAS_DE/html/die_vier_phasen_der_sexuellen_1.html
(online last access on October 14, 2015)

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